Comments on: What is wrong with Chinese and Indian Parents? http://geeyk.com/what-is-wrong-with-chinese-and-indian-parents/ looking at the world from outside the box. Mon, 09 Aug 2010 17:35:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: php themes http://geeyk.com/what-is-wrong-with-chinese-and-indian-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-76 php themes Thu, 05 Aug 2010 23:53:35 +0000 http://geeyk.com/?p=82#comment-76 this article is veryusefull for parents of india and also for china gives infomation to parents how to behave with son?? this article is veryusefull for parents of india and also for china gives infomation to parents how to behave with son??

]]> By: Paresh http://geeyk.com/what-is-wrong-with-chinese-and-indian-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-75 Paresh Fri, 16 Jul 2010 18:58:19 +0000 http://geeyk.com/?p=82#comment-75 As much as I love the initial observation and the premise, I strongly hate your solution given to the problem. You have drawn an apt parallel between the Identity crisis of parents and the drive to list out the achievements of children by the housewives. But the problem does not stop there. I have increasingly seen many upper middle class and even upper class (the really sophisticated kind) families to start driving there kinds to the walls. The problem is, in our country people do not define success as what you have achieved but what you may achieve. For example, they think a person who gets into an IIT/BITS/NIT has a much brighter future than a person who gets into a state level college. They fail to comprehend that the undergraduate degree is not the end of the journey, its just a stepping stone. Sure for those who get into a "Top Brass" college, the stepping stone acts more like and elevator, but so what? After we have our undergraduate degree, we stand on the same ground after few years in the industry if we have the talent thanks to the sharp eyes of Corporate HRs. <br><br>Thus the conclusive "solution" that you have drawn from your awesome observation will not really work the way its supposed to be. Also its really hard to implement. As much as I love the initial observation and the premise, I strongly hate your solution given to the problem. You have drawn an apt parallel between the Identity crisis of parents and the drive to list out the achievements of children by the housewives. But the problem does not stop there. I have increasingly seen many upper middle class and even upper class (the really sophisticated kind) families to start driving there kinds to the walls. The problem is, in our country people do not define success as what you have achieved but what you may achieve. For example, they think a person who gets into an IIT/BITS/NIT has a much brighter future than a person who gets into a state level college. They fail to comprehend that the undergraduate degree is not the end of the journey, its just a stepping stone. Sure for those who get into a “Top Brass” college, the stepping stone acts more like and elevator, but so what? After we have our undergraduate degree, we stand on the same ground after few years in the industry if we have the talent thanks to the sharp eyes of Corporate HRs.

Thus the conclusive “solution” that you have drawn from your awesome observation will not really work the way its supposed to be. Also its really hard to implement.

]]> By: Ajay Kumar (A 10th std. boy) http://geeyk.com/what-is-wrong-with-chinese-and-indian-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-74 Ajay Kumar (A 10th std. boy) Fri, 26 Mar 2010 17:46:54 +0000 http://geeyk.com/?p=82#comment-74 Awesome post Sir.... Please take the initiative of this cause... Awesome post Sir…. Please take the initiative of this cause…

]]> By: GabyZ http://geeyk.com/what-is-wrong-with-chinese-and-indian-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-67 GabyZ Mon, 26 Oct 2009 17:26:30 +0000 http://geeyk.com/?p=82#comment-67 Very good post. They don't realize that with all the pressure they put on they're preparing their childs to be unsuccesfull and/or unhappy for all their life, a life that 2 mad parends put on paper for them.<br>Most of the richest people on earth had very personal projects and many of them acqually quit school to do what made them succesfull....i quit school at 18 to make a living the way I want and by my 20s i'm sure i'll get all i want. You don't get rich/succesfull by doing the same thing the 90% of kids do: go to school, get bored and get an usual job.<br><br>If your parents don't support you, stop asking for support and go against their will even if it's not easy...and they'll see they were wrong when you're happy. Very good post. They don't realize that with all the pressure they put on they're preparing their childs to be unsuccesfull and/or unhappy for all their life, a life that 2 mad parends put on paper for them.
Most of the richest people on earth had very personal projects and many of them acqually quit school to do what made them succesfull….i quit school at 18 to make a living the way I want and by my 20s i'm sure i'll get all i want. You don't get rich/succesfull by doing the same thing the 90% of kids do: go to school, get bored and get an usual job.

If your parents don't support you, stop asking for support and go against their will even if it's not easy…and they'll see they were wrong when you're happy.

]]> By: GabyZ http://geeyk.com/what-is-wrong-with-chinese-and-indian-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-59 GabyZ Mon, 26 Oct 2009 12:26:30 +0000 http://geeyk.com/?p=82#comment-59 Very good post. They don't realize that with all the pressure they put on they're preparing their childs to be unsuccesfull and/or unhappy for all their life, a life that 2 mad parends put on paper for them.<br>Most of the richest people on earth had very personal projects and many of them acqually quit school to do what made them succesfull....i quit school at 18 to make a living the way I want and by my 20s i'm sure i'll get all i want. You don't get rich/succesfull by doing the same thing the 90% of kids do: go to school, get bored and get an usual job.<br><br>If your parents don't support you, stop asking for support and go against their will even if it's not easy...and they'll see they were wrong when you're happy. Very good post. They don't realize that with all the pressure they put on they're preparing their childs to be unsuccesfull and/or unhappy for all their life, a life that 2 mad parends put on paper for them.
Most of the richest people on earth had very personal projects and many of them acqually quit school to do what made them succesfull….i quit school at 18 to make a living the way I want and by my 20s i'm sure i'll get all i want. You don't get rich/succesfull by doing the same thing the 90% of kids do: go to school, get bored and get an usual job.

If your parents don't support you, stop asking for support and go against their will even if it's not easy…and they'll see they were wrong when you're happy.

]]> By: Vimal George http://geeyk.com/what-is-wrong-with-chinese-and-indian-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-56 Vimal George Thu, 18 Jun 2009 08:30:12 +0000 http://geeyk.com/?p=82#comment-56 I loved the apt reference to the ongoing WoW avatar madness. It struck a chord. I loved the apt reference to the ongoing WoW avatar madness. It struck a chord.

]]> By: Erik http://geeyk.com/what-is-wrong-with-chinese-and-indian-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-51 Erik Wed, 06 May 2009 16:41:35 +0000 http://geeyk.com/?p=82#comment-51 This is indeed a nice article for all parents as this is an eye-opener to what could possibly happen in our kids when they encounter too much pressure from us as parents. But situations like these are not only happening in children with Indian or Chinese parents...it can happen to any children in any part of the world regardless of their race when their parents expect too much from their children. Encouraging children to be successful or to excel is different from pressuring them and we should only do the former. Never pressure a child... This is indeed a nice article for all parents as this is an eye-opener to what could possibly happen in our kids when they encounter too much pressure from us as parents. But situations like these are not only happening in children with Indian or Chinese parents…it can happen to any children in any part of the world regardless of their race when their parents expect too much from their children. Encouraging children to be successful or to excel is different from pressuring them and we should only do the former. Never pressure a child…

]]> By: azharcs http://geeyk.com/what-is-wrong-with-chinese-and-indian-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-49 azharcs Mon, 16 Feb 2009 22:03:14 +0000 http://geeyk.com/?p=82#comment-49 Good to hear that you found what you really like. :)<br><br>Taare Zameen Par FTW Good to hear that you found what you really like. :)

Taare Zameen Par FTW

]]> By: markupdude http://geeyk.com/what-is-wrong-with-chinese-and-indian-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-48 markupdude Mon, 16 Feb 2009 20:04:33 +0000 http://geeyk.com/?p=82#comment-48 I agree. I came from that Hacker News thread, there few people from India seemed to disagree, and many from US told their parents also emphasize on good grades and they don't think its unjustified.<br><br>But there is a big difference between educated US parents 'expecting' their kids to do well & un-educated/semi-mad parents in India 'demanding' their kids to be the best. I have seen it everywhere, in bigger cities, in small towns[my place], happens with my cousins these days, other children i have seen. This is madness. <br><br>Let a kid do what he thinks is good & is within his capabilities & he will be best in that category. For example i was kind of expected, though not forced to become a software engineer, you know that boring C/C++ things ;) , but i choosed my own destiny [long story ;)]<br><br>Taare Zameen Par has great lessons. <br><br>Peace. I agree. I came from that Hacker News thread, there few people from India seemed to disagree, and many from US told their parents also emphasize on good grades and they don't think its unjustified.

But there is a big difference between educated US parents 'expecting' their kids to do well & un-educated/semi-mad parents in India 'demanding' their kids to be the best. I have seen it everywhere, in bigger cities, in small towns[my place], happens with my cousins these days, other children i have seen. This is madness.

Let a kid do what he thinks is good & is within his capabilities & he will be best in that category. For example i was kind of expected, though not forced to become a software engineer, you know that boring C/C++ things ;) , but i choosed my own destiny [long story ;) ]

Taare Zameen Par has great lessons.

Peace.

]]> By: azharcs http://geeyk.com/what-is-wrong-with-chinese-and-indian-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-47 azharcs Mon, 16 Feb 2009 19:14:41 +0000 http://geeyk.com/?p=82#comment-47 True, but shouldn't learning be more about curiosity rather than fear. I totally agree with you that Real World tests everyone, not matter who they are. Thanks for the comments. :) True, but shouldn't learning be more about curiosity rather than fear. I totally agree with you that Real World tests everyone, not matter who they are. Thanks for the comments. :)

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